A Partner By Definition

How can you manage your relationship with a person with borderline personality disorder (BPD)?

A partner by definition is someone with whom you both push in the same direction. Someone with bpd, on the other hand, will drag you down into her (most likely a bpd is a she) own hole. So she will do all the dragging while you’ll be struggling to survive. That by definition is not a partner. And make no mistake. If she has bpd she is not, never was and never will be a partner.

I know some mental health professionals will strongly disagree. I hope they do. It’s their job to look after the mentally disordered. To deal with them. Their job. Not yours. If you want to help that’s what you can do – make sure she gets the best treatments available. But don’t get sucked into the bpd drama. Your life’s in danger

Federico J. Coronado's answer to How can you manage your relationship with a person with borderline personality disorder (BPD)? - Quora
A partner by definition is someone with whom you both push in the same direction. Someone with bpd, on the other hand, will drag you down into her (most likely ...